Saturday, March 16, 2019

Why Not Trusting Yourself is Fucking Up Your Life

Consider this your invitation: 
This is me, Melissa, founder of
The Karma Couch.
To answer the call.
To be the real you.
To trust yourself. 

Are you open to receiving it? Because I know sometimes I’m really not. Then I wonder why things aren’t happening the way I want them to, why despite all my efforts I still feel unsatisfied or the money isn't flowing, or the book isn't selling or a hundred and one things that aren't happening that I want to happen. Now.

Shutting down my heart and putting up walls between me and the rest of the world is NOT an abundant way to live. 
Did you know this is why you’re not getting what you want? Why you’re not loving your life? When you're not being the real you and trusting yourself NOTHING FLOWS.

When you’re afraid who you really are is unacceptable to your friends and family, you build a fortress of distrust. And what I’m figuring out is that wall not only keeps out the criticism and judgment, but it also keeps EVERYTHING I WANT OUT TOO. 

This is the essence of the scarcity mindset. 
Is your mind blown yet?

I’m not suggesting we should walk around without any defenses. 
What I’m saying is when I’m being closed off, critical, distrustful, and wary, nothing flows. I’m the opposite of open to receive. 

And then I wonder why nothings happening, why the money’s not flowing, why the creative vibe has left me, why my life doesn’t feel like it should. Like I’m out of sync, alone, lost.

Yes, it’s hard to trust and be the real you in front of others. It takes courage to stand in your truth. But the more I do it despite my fear, the more confident I am becoming. First, I opened up to my closest loved ones. That was surprisingly hard and cathartic. The next step was my closest friends, then to the broader circle. Now, publicly. 

But you know what? I've learned a good lesson there, too: not everyone deserves a seat at the table of your truth. And certainly at the beginning you need to hold your truth close to your heart until your confidence grows. Don't let the world kill your dreams before they even have a chance to hatch, pick your confidants wisely.

I’m a work in progress running toward the light. 
I'm learning to trust myself and lean into the flow and process of life because everything I want my life to be requires that I do. And when you’re learning this lesson, when you’re stepping into the real you, you need your tribe: people who get you and what you’re trying to do. 

If you aren’t surrounded by like-minded souls who understand where you are on your journey and unconditionally support and love you, I invite you to join my tribe of soulful seekers. We hold space for each other in a safe, heart-centered and fun-loving environment. Click HERE to sign up for my newsletter and receive a link to join our private Facebook group.


You don’t have to do this alone. ❤️🙌🏻✨😊🌙

Why Not Trusting Yourself is Fucking Up Your Life

Consider this your invitation:  This is me, Melissa, founder of The Karma Couch. To answer the call. To be the real you. To trust...