Only the Worriers Survive

I’ve been working on shifting my perspective on negativity and complaining. Overall, I’ve been avoiding anything and everything negative lately, especially anything in the toxic political arena. 
But I have become aware of my own negativity in my efforts to be positive. Is it possible that my own negativity is influencing the way I perceive? Absolutely! Because we see things as we are, not as they are. 
So I asked myself how can I see things differently? How can I change my negative perception of the toxic atmosphere around politics? And even and especially the people  presenting the negativity?
So far here’s what I’ve come up with: 
Human beings are wired to be negative. Yes, we are. We are wired to worry and to project and to assume the worst. Why am I so sure? Because the earliest humans who assumed the noise in the bush was a long-toothed hungry tiger got the heck out of there and survived. 
The easy going fellow who laughed it off was eaten. 
So even if the overly worried and anxious g…

Be Yourself, Trust Yourself

This week I challenged my High Vibe Life Facebook group to observe how authentic they were being in their daily life.

I decided on this challenge because it's been a big theme in my life this past year. As I've explore who I really am and what I really want in  my life, I've been all over the emotional and spiritual spectrum. 
Who would have thought simply observing and becoming aware of how authentic I am being at any moment would have such a profound impact??
But it has and this week I’ve come face to face with my True Self and she wants me to reconnect with her, to be more spontaneous, to surrender to my natural inclination to tell stories, be creative, reconnect with my sense of humor and playfulness, AND to experience the joy of it all. 
During this intense journey of self-discovery, I went looking for essential oils to foster authenticity and here are my top 5:
1. Wild Orange. I’ve always loved Wild Orange essential oil and now I know why: not only does it help with anxie…

How Do I Know I'm on the Right Path?

Once upon a time, I decided to hike the Appalachian Trail. Before that, I had only gone on weekend backpacking trips, but the man I had fallen in love with was a past grand master. I could not for the life of me envision our happily ever after if I remained unadventured. Yes, it's a word. ;-)

So, I planned and I shopped. I picked over backpacks, technical clothing, stoves, pots, boots, socks, and various tidbits and gear. All the while I wondered...would I make it. Was I capable of living in the woods for 2,000 miles plus? How would I deal with the cold, the rain, the bugs, the heat, the pain? I had long moments of great pause, was I really doing the right thing?

But underlying all my doubts was the certainty that I had to try.

And so I did. I found myself, with my new husband, at the top of Springer Moutain. It was a cold day, with clouds in the sky. It wasn't the send-off I'd imagined...sunny, blue skies with little fluffy clouds floating was cold and wet and…

How to Take Really Good Care of Yourself on the Off Days

So this week didn’t go at all like I planned. I had a great post on self-care and even planned a Live video in my Essentials for Living a High Vibe FB group to show you what’s in my Off-Day Kit. But the Universe had other plans.
Like I had to make the heartbreaking decision to let my senior dog go. Thank goodness my husband and I are such a good team because having discussed the inevitable ahead of time made the process not easy, but bearable. My precious Kodi girl had a bad health episode a couple months ago and we nursed her through it, but the vet warned we could expect a repeat in the future. Our Alaskan Malamute was almost 13 years old, had progressive arthritis, among other old dog issues, and well, no one lives forever. So, we sat down and talked about it several times over the last two months. So when Kodi fell ill again this past Sunday, we were prepared, although anxious. I still held out hope we could nurse her through this. 
Unfortunately, things didn't work out the w…

You Have to Know Yourself Before You Can Change Yourself

Sometimes, getting to know yourself is a hard, slap in the face. But it needs to be done. I spent the last 4 days trying not to complain and whoa! I have been very tempted to judge myself as a Negative Nellie. You really need to read this post HERE-->What's In Your Cup? for context.  Okay, now you can proceed. Not complaining? For 4 days? This. Was. Hard!!! I am so blown away by how often I went down the complaint rabbit hole. Now, I could look at this as some sort of mark against me. “Oh, Melissa, this is bad. You’re not as positive as you thought you were.” But that road leads to self-flagellation and feeling cruddy. I am NOT in the mood for that kind of nonsense and I certainly don’t see anything productive in once again judging myself so harshly. That train has left the station. Another option is to look at the bright side: I’m more aware of my thoughts and habits around complaining than I was 5 days ago. And any gain in self-awareness is a plus.   Why? Because we can’t do a…

What's in Your Cup?

I've come across this post before, and I've shared it more than once, but today it spoke to me on a new

To give you some context, this week I challenged myself and my High Vibe tribe to stop complaining for 4 days. I'd read this Headspace blog post-->This is What Happened When I Stopped Complaining for 30 Days and thought, I know myself well enough to acknowledge 30 days is overwhelming, but 4 days? I can do that.

But it hasn't been easy. At every turn, there's an opportunity to complain...about another driver, about the news, about the person standing in the cart corral blocking everyone from getting to the grocery carts while he stares off into space and chats on his phone (seriously--oops! Is that complaining???).

You get the picture.

So I see this post on a friend's timeline this morning and think, wow. It's not just when things get rough. What's inside spills out even over minor irritations.

Or maybe those things bother me more than they…

Motivation for Monday: Don't Panic!

What’s on your agenda this week? We all have a million and one to do items and projects to tackle and the mere thought of that list might be overwhelming. The stress of it is probably creeping into your awareness right now.
But I challenge you this week to make a different choice! Did you know most of us believe that if we don’t stress or don’t panic we won’t get anything done? It’s a mostly unconscious but deeply ingrained, limiting belief.
Research actually shows that the more relaxed you are the more you accomplish. Check out this New York Times article Relax! You'll Be More Productive. To a point of course. Like, we don’t want to be so relaxed we're falling asleep