Sunday, September 30, 2018

I Look for Things to be Thankful For

Sunday Morning Musings
In the back of my mind always is a hiking metaphor for life, but not a weekend backpacking trip or a day hike up to Old Rag and back.
Life is a Thru-hike: a long journey with the ultimate goal not to get to the end point, Death (which who are we kidding, isn't really an end but a part of a much larger journey than we can conceive of), but to make the absolute most of the steps in between.
Friday was the 20th anniversary of the endpoint, aka Summit day, of my Thru-hike of the Appalachian Trail and this picture of me and my husband sums up so much of that journey.
So I asked Source this morning: Where am I on my journey, now? What do I need to be doing right now? What is my next step?
Then I drew the first three cards from Louise Hay's How to Love Yourself Cards: a deck of 64 affirmations.
I think the message is absolutely clear and I’m not at all surprised that the centerpiece, the keystone, is to be thankful.
Gratitude is so powerful because it releases the past, trusts the outcome, and fully, joyfully embraces the present.
Peace out


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Monday, July 23, 2018

Only the Worriers Survive

I’ve been working on shifting my perspective on negativity and complaining. Overall, I’ve been avoiding anything and everything angry lately, especially in the toxic political arena. 

But I have become aware of my own negativity in my efforts to be positive. Is it possible that my own negativity is influencing the way I perceive? Absolutely! Because we see things as we are, not as they are. 

So I asked myself how can I see things differently? How can I change my negative perception of the toxic atmosphere around politics? And even and especially the people  presenting the negativity?

So far here’s what I’ve come up with: 

Human beings are wired to be negative. Yes, we are. We are wired to worry and to project and to assume the worst. Why am I so sure? Because the earliest humans who assumed the noise in the bush was a long-toothed hungry tiger got the heck out of there and survived. 

The easy going fellow who laughed it off was eaten. 

So even if the overly worried and anxious guy was wrong 19 out of 20 times, he was right when it counted and lived to pass on his worry genes.

The guy who was relaxed and was right 19 out of 20 times got eaten because he was wrong just one, very crucial time.

So here’s my new outlook: it’s human nature to assume the worst. It’s okay because it’s part of who we are and how we have survived this long. It only makes sense that this doom and gloom outlook on life would reach a fever-pitched crescendo in social media. 

We are wired to worry. 

The pay off for changing my perspective? I can let go of my frustration and hurt feelings. I can just let it go. My friends' political posts are all about spreading the word; they’re just looking out for me. 

I can be grateful that friends are giving the high alert signal because that’s what tribe mates do: alert each other of danger and look out for one another. 

BUT I also recognize that this is our human tendency and that 19 out of 20 times the perceived danger is not real. It’s wise to be cautious, but it’s not helpful to constantly be terrified.

While I’ll still take precautions to not get caught up in the toxicity, I at least can peek at my friends' timelines again with a new understanding and less stress. 

What do you think? 


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Friday, June 29, 2018

Be Yourself, Trust Yourself

This week I challenged my High Vibe Life Facebook group to observe how authentic they were being in their daily life.

I decided on this challenge because it's been a big theme in my life this past year. As I've explored who I really am and what I really want in my life, I've been all over the emotional and spiritual spectrum. 

Who would have thought simply observing and becoming aware of how authentic I am being at any moment would have such a profound impact??

But it has and this week I’ve come face to face with my True Self and she wants me to reconnect with her, to be more spontaneous, to surrender to my natural inclination to tell stories, be creative, reconnect with my sense of humor and playfulness, AND to experience the joy of it all. 

During this intense journey of self-discovery, I went looking for essential oils to foster authenticity and here are my top 5:

1. Wild Orange. I’ve always loved Wild Orange essential oil and now I know why: not only does it help with anxiety, but it’s also the oil of abundance and reconnects us with our inner child. It encourages us to let go of a scarcity mindset and teaches us to be generous, to give without thought of compensation. 

Wild Orange also teaches us we never need to fear putting ourselves out there and to live from our True Self all the time. 

Use: Diffuse 2-4 drops with Breathe or Peppermint throughout the day. *Peppermint enhances the effect of any essential oil. 

2. Cassia. The Oil of Self-assurance teaches us to have courage, to lead with the heart and the soul. It has helped me be less shy and timid (yes, I can be) and see my own brilliance when I am feeling foolish and silly. 

Cassia invites us to let our light shine and boosts our confidence.  

Uses: Diffuse 2-4 drops or dilute 1 drop or less with a carrier oil and apply over solar plexus. Caution: Cassia can be irritating to the skin, be cautious when using topically.

3. Spearmint. The Oil of Confident Speech. People in need of Spearmint may hide their thoughts, opinions, and ideas by withholding their voices. (Um, I know it sounds absurd but this is so me!)

Spearmint helps you get clear about your thoughts and opinions and then helps you speak your truth. 

Uses: Diffuse 1 drop throughout the day. Smells AMAZING diffused with Wild Orange. Or Dilute 1 drop with carrier oil and apply over throat. 

4. Black Pepper. The Oil of Unmasking. This oil reveals the masks we wear, invites us to dig deep to the less understood parts of ourselves, and reignites the soul fire. It reveals the strength in ourselves needed to overcome our limiting beliefs and invites us to live authentically. 

When we're little, we are taught to suppress our undesirable emotions. We're told to not cry, not throw tantrums, and basically, instead of being taught how to express ourselves in a healthy way we're taught there are some emotions that are "bad" and shouldn't be expressed. So we bury them. There's an entire side of us, what we may consider our shadow side, that rarely gets to see the light of day...unless we've learned how to be passive-aggressive. 

This side of us emerges whether we like it or not, so why not choose to integrate all aspects of ourselves instead of repressing half of who we are?

Now, I'm not blaming parents or anything like that. It just happens, so anyone who's got their knickers in a twist right about now, just know I too am a parent trying to figure out how to raise my wild monkey children with the best of intentions. Relax.

Uses: Dilute 1-2 drops in a carrier oil and apply to bottoms of feet. ( I also add a few drops to olive oil and toss with fresh popcorn or salad.)

5. Kumquat. The Oil of Authentic Presence. This oil invites us to stop repressing our true feelings behind a socially acceptable facade of feigned happiness. It assists in anchoring our identity in the truth in order to live authentically. 

It invites us to shift our focus from garnering outward acceptance toward the journey to inner alignment, contentment, and healing. 

Uses: Diffuse or place a drop in hands, rub, and inhale. Apply 1-3 drops along with black pepper in a carrier oil to soles of feet. 

The source for most of the oil information in this post is my most valued resource for essential oils and emotions, the book Emotions and Essential Oils. As always, any links to products or sites in my blog posts may be associate links which means I get a few pennies if you decide to purchase, with no additional cost to you. 

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Be true to you!

Peace out, my friends.


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Friday, June 15, 2018

How Do I Know I'm on the Right Path?

Once upon a time, I decided to hike the Appalachian Trail. Before that, I had only gone on weekend backpacking trips, but the man I had fallen in love with was a past grand master. I could not for the life of me envision our happily ever after if I remained unadventured. Yes, it's a word. ;-)

So, I planned and I shopped. I picked over backpacks, technical clothing, stoves, pots, boots, socks, and various tidbits and gear. All the while I wondered...would I make it. Was I capable of living in the woods for 2,000 miles plus? How would I deal with the cold, the rain, the bugs, the heat, the pain? I had long moments of great pause, was I really doing the right thing?

But underlying all my doubts was the certainty that I had to try.

And so I did. I found myself, with my new husband, at the top of Springer Moutain. It was a cold day, with clouds in the sky. It wasn't the send-off I'd imagined...sunny, blue skies with little fluffy clouds floating along...it was cold and wet and a little bit scary.

And I wondered... was I doing the right thing?

It started to snow as we hiked our first mile, but it was light and fluffy and I only had a mild tingling of worry. I hiked slow and steady, watching my footing and often forgetting to look up and see the forest. We met other people just beginning their thru-hike at the first shelter. They stuck out their hands and introduced themselves, some with trail names already. My hubs had thru-hiked three years before and introduced himself as the Professor. A guy turned to me and said, "then you must be Mary Ann!"

And I wondered...would that become my lame ass trail name?

I was adamant that would not be my trail name, and a friend said to me, "You better come up with a trail name pronto or it is going to stick. That's how trail names happen."

That night, we camped in a pavilion next to a graveyard and joined a group of hikers around a campfire. It was cold and our socks were wet from sloshing through a stream or two. One of the hikers put his wet socks on his hands and held them over the fire to dry. Several of us warned him not to hold them too close to the fire. Synthetic blends melt mighty fast. "That's why I put them on my hands," he said with a smug smile.

A few minutes later, I smelled something weird, like hot tires. Someone called out, "Hey, what's that burnt rubber smell?"

"Oh, shit!" The guy with the socks yanked his hands back and sure enough, the bottoms were melted and scorched black.

"Should a' known," Everyone chorused and laughed.

His trail name became Should-A-Known. So yes, it happens fast and depending on the situation, sticks immediately.

It made me contemplate my trail name hard. I'd already had two people call me Mary Ann and I refused to believe that was any kind of trail name. Who has a trail name like that??? It's boring next to the Professor or Roy G. Biv (Should-A-Known's hiking companion) or Snore-a-saurus. Now those were trail names! I couldn't end up with such a pedestrian trial name. But I wondered...would I?

I woke up to snow all over our tent the next morning, still contemplating my trail name. I spent the better part of the hike that day mulling it over. Snore-a-saurus, the friend who recommended I nix Mary Ann asap, suggested Miss E. He thought that was clever since my hubs always called me Missy. I thought it was equally as pedestrian. No, it had to be something I could tell my grandkids about and smile. I wondered...would I smile over Miss E or Mary Ann?

It eventually came to me on day three...my trail name. It would be Peacepipe. I was a little disappointed that this was how my trail name would come to be. I'd hoped that I would be dubbed on the trail by the hikers I met, but what they were trying to knight me with was even more disappointing, I decided. I told my hubs; I told Snore-a-saurus. They weren't as enthusiastic as me, and even I wasn't jumping for joy. This sucked. I wondered...should I just let Mary Ann stick?

But I didn't. I claimed Peaceipe by introducing myself as such, over and over again. I had no great story to tell about my name, other than it was in self-defense. But I wondered...was it the right way to go about getting a trail name?

And I hiked. Miles and miles, over mountains and through creeks. I faced the rain for 40 days and 40 nights (I kid you not). I watched people drop like flies, abandoning the trail because it wasn't what they thought it would be. There was too much rain at the beginning. We joked about swimming to Maine, our gear growing mold, and our feet perpetually water-logged. That's a problem, by the way. Ask a soldier about trench foot.

When we reached Gatlinburg, I was still wondering how to make my trail name feel official, earned...right. I was still struggling with it, dang it. While we took a couple days off, I roamed the streets and shops of that famous Tennessee town, brooding way too much. Then I came across a shop full of Cherokee folk art. A very simple red clay peace pipe called to me. It was small. Just the right size to stow away in a backpack. And I wondered...did it mean something?

Along the way over the next few months, I started drawing a little peace pipe after my signature in log books, etching it into my mind and soul. I was Peacepipe. I was Peacepipe...wasn't I?

I found feathers. And friends. I attached the feathers to my pipe; the friends to my heart and soul. I discovered some beautiful blue glass beads in a little town in Massachusetts, and that my capacity for endurance outstripped any preconceived notions. I strung the beads on black leather thongs and tied them to my little peace pipe. And I wondered...how do we just know our soul tribe when we meet them?

Then one day, deep into the woods in Vermont, I had a bad moment. I wondered what the hell I was doing on that trail for all these months? I was tired, but tired like I was running on fumes tired. I ached. I hadn't NOT ached for weeks. I sat down on a log and stared at the three-foot tall ferns, a sea of them between the trees, and I cried. What was I trying to prove, anyway? I gingerly took off my pack and examined my hip blisters. Yes, I said hip blisters. They'd formed as I lost weight and my hip belt became too big. And I wondered...had my endurance run out?

Was this still the right path for me?

Maybe...maybe not. I couldn't imagine giving up, but right then, it was so hard to keep moving. But what was I going to do? Quit right there, in the middle of the forest? And what? Wait for a helicopter to lift me out?

Pfft.

No.

I at least had to hike to the next town.

Later that same day, feeling weary and exhausted to my soul as I slugged out the last couple miles of the day, I heard my trail name being called. Excitedly. Enthusiastically! "Peacepipe! Hey, wait up! Peacepipe!!"

My tribe mates Sensei and Peacemaker came around the bend, backpacks tacked down, their faces lit up with smiles as big as boulders. "Look what we found!"

And they held out this little stone. Pink. "Look!" Peacemaker poked at the stone.

At first, I didn't see it, then I did. My mouth fell open. A "P" shape created by another type of stone, maybe quartz, embedded in it. "That's so cool! How in the world did you find that?"

Sensei said, "I was crossing that stream back there, looked down and saw it. In the water. I couldn't believe it. I called out for Peace and gave it to him."

I grinned at Peacemaker. "That is such a cool thing to find! How awesome!" His trail name was Peacemaker. How perfect, I thought. What an amazing memento. Nothing could have been more perfect.

"Oh, no. It's not meant for me,"  he said. "Look closer. Look."

I frowned, squinting at the stone, not sure what he was talking about. Then, like it had popped into existence at that exact moment, I saw it: a little pipe shape. Unmistakable. It was almost the exact same shape I had been drawing in the log books at the shelters when I signed my name. My whole body flooded with prickly energy, like chills running through me, every hair on my body standing on end. I think I got choked up, but I laughed through the confusing tears. Shocked. Surprised.

And happily, wondrously in awe.

"It's a peace pipe!" I cried out. And we all laughed at the pure magic we had the honor to be a part of.

I have never felt so on the right path as I did at that moment.

And I wondered no more.

Peacepipe '98

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Saturday, June 2, 2018

How to Take Really Good Care of Yourself on the Off Days

My Kodi girl
So this week didn’t go at all like I planned. I had a great post on self-care and even planned a Live video in my Essentials for Living a High Vibe FB group to show you what’s in my Off-Day Kit. But the Universe had other plans. 

Like I had to make the heartbreaking decision to let my senior dog go. Thank goodness my husband and I are such a good team because having discussed the inevitable ahead of time made the process not easy, but bearable. My precious Kodi girl had a bad health episode a couple months ago and we nursed her through it, but the vet warned we could expect a repeat in the future. Our Alaskan Malamute was almost 13 years old, had progressive arthritis, among other old dog issues, and well, no one lives forever. So, we sat down and talked about it several times over the last two months. So when Kodi fell ill again this past Sunday, we were prepared, although anxious. I still held out hope we could nurse her through this. 

Unfortunately, things didn't work out the way we'd hoped and there we were, staring at death's door. :-( We followed our plan and we both held her as she slipped away. For me it was important to be by her side right to the end...and I was.
I see so clearly now in the immediate aftermath of Kodi’s passing how getting clear about my core values informs and sustains me. We all have to make hard decisions in our lives and we will second guess ourselves at times, so its really important for us to know who we are, what we value, and that we are mere humans doing the best that we can. Because when the storms of doubt blow through, you'll need a rock solid foundation to keep you grounded.

I’ve had to dig into my self-care arsenal these last few days, and I’m sure I will need all my off-day tricks in the days, weeks, and months to come. The ones that have come in most handy are:

1) Know yourself. This sounds like a strange self-care item, but it's actually the most important thing you can do for your wellbeing, next to loving yourself. Get to know yourself. Right now, before the hard things happen, sit down with a cup of tea and explore this person you're becoming, because we're always in a state of becoming. We are not static, fixed relics. We are living, breathing, in-the-works collaborative pieces of art designed by a Creator who knows a lot more about life and living than we will ever be able to fathom. Figure out what your top 3 priorities in life are, what you believe in, what you don't like, and where you're headed. Dig deep. Make the process of getting to know yourself an ongoing thing, because it is. The relationship you have with yourself informs absolutely everything in your life, including and especially your most intimate relationships with others. And when you have to make hard decisions, you'll be able to trust that whatever you decide to do, it's in alignment with who you really are. And that goes a long way in comforting you in the aftermath, believe me.

How do you get to know yourself? All kinds of ways. Keep a journal, but ask yourself important questions like "Do I believe in God? A sentient Universe that guides and assists? If not, why not? If not, what do I believe in?" Hint: you have to believe in something, even if it's just yourself. Stuff like that. Take yourself out on dates. Go to lunch with yourself, go to museums, concerts, and other things that you're curious or intrigued by. Don't just go where you've always gone, explore, step outside your normal routine and see what clicks with you. You don't know what will appeal until you give it a try. There are many other ways to get to know yourself, but these two activities will get you started. The rest will flow naturally out of your curiosity. Be open and as non-judgmental as you can be. 

2) Self-acceptance. Don’t be so hard on yourself. Acknowledge you are doing the best that you can and things will work out. They really will. Be gentle with yourself, love yourself, and forgive yourself. Curl up on the couch with loved ones and watch an old favorite, comforting movie and give yourself the space and time to process in your own way.

3) Long showers. Yes, I ran the hot water out twice this week. I play mantras and sing along with them and let the emotions ebb and flow. Try it. Water is emotionally as well as physically cleansing.

4) Take time off. While you may think you can’t afford it, you can and should take a mental health day. Cancel appointments, politely bow out of meetings or other obligations. The world will not end, the people will get over it, and you don’t even have to explain yourself. You can spend the day taking really good care of yourself. If you feel any guilt about taking a day off, keep this in mind: a single day off can recalibrate your mental, emotional, AND physical well-being so you can perform better at your various jobs and life roles. Otherwise, you’ll limp along until you have a major crash that will have a much bigger impact on your health, your family, your relationships, and your career. Take the day off. Everyone will benefit. 

5) Meditate. And I don’t mean on the off days. Meditate every single day, even if it’s just for 3 breaths. Let’s do it now:  
Inhale. Exhale. Inhale. Exhale. Inhale. Exhale. Done. Do it again tomorrow. And the next day. And the next. You see, if you only meditate when you “need” to, you won’t reap the amazing rewards you could if you’d been practicing all along. What I discovered this morning is my regular meditation on the ordinary days, even when I felt like I didn’t have time or the desire, prepared me. It prepared me to enter that space of peace and healing when I really, really needed it and didn’t think I could.

When you’re hurting, anxious, depressed, or angry it can feel impossible to find your center. That’s why you have to meditate now and every day. I avoided my meditation practice the last couple days and I wish I hadn’t because this morning when I started my guided meditation on grief (see the Headspace app) I felt myself sink into that quiet space and it was so peaceful I cried, but they were tears of relief. Meditation isn’t magic. It’s real, palpable medicine. 

6) Be there for a friend. When you’re having a bad day, it may not always be possible depending on what’s happening but if you can, reach out to a friend you know is hurting or struggling. Go have lunch together. Go for a walk together. You don’t even have to talk about specifics, just be there for someone else and you’ll find your own struggle easing, the load will lift. Helping is healing, my friends. The funny thing is lately I’ve found I don’t even need to search out a friend to help; it’s as if the Universe conspires for them to be there at the right time. Or maybe I've just made some great friends. ❤️😉

7) Clean, Declutter, & Organize. When I need to clear out mental space, I find it incredibly helpful to clear out physical space. I recommend starting with something personal, like your closet. But if your entire closet feels overwhelming, start with a sock drawer, your jewelry box, or your makeup bag. Dump out all the contents on your bed, then sort into four piles: love, like, toss, donate. Don't think about it, let your feelings lead. How does it feel when you hold that item? Don't think about how much you spent on it: guilt is non-productive in this case. If it's broken but you love it and it gives you that jolt of joy when you hold it, see if you can repair it. Old tattered concert t-shirt make you feel all warm and fuzzy? Keep it! Brand new $100 pair of shoes leaves you cold? Take them to a consignment shop to recoup some of your money. Then figure out why you bought them if you didn't absolutely love them so you don't make that mistake again. 

Revisit the "like" pile and hold each item one more time. If you don't love it, why can't you let it go? It's okay to put those items in a box and set it aside for three months. If you never have the urge to go get them after 3 months, let them go. And finally, clean the drawer before you put your loved items neatly back. Make sure your new arrangement is pleasing to your eye. You want your mind to be at ease when it scans that drawer or jewelry box.

These are a few of my go-to Off-Day Kit strategies and practices. So, maybe I've had more than a simple "off day" this past week, but the same comforting practices work for the really bad days, too. I urge you to create your own Off-Day Kit right this minute. if you don't know where to start, copy mine and see where that leads you. I don't mind at all. :-) But don't just say "Okay, yeah, that's my Off-Day Kit." Write it down someplace you can always find it. I use Evernote.

Do you already have some off-day care strategies? If so, I'd love to know what they are. Let us know in the comments and keep the conversation going.

Much love and light to you!

Peace out.

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Saturday, May 12, 2018

You Have to Know Yourself Before You Can Change Yourself





Sometimes, getting to know yourself is a hard, slap in the face. But it needs to be done. I spent the last 4 days trying not to complain and whoa! I have been very tempted to judge myself as a Negative Nellie.

You really need to read this post HERE-->What's In Your Cup? for context. 

Okay, now you can proceed.
Not complaining? For 4 days? This. Was. Hard!!! I am so blown away by how often I went down the complaint rabbit hole. Now, I could look at this as some sort of mark against me. “Oh, Melissa, this is bad. You’re not as positive as you thought you were.”
But that road leads to self-flagellation and feeling cruddy. I am NOT in the mood for that kind of nonsense and I certainly don’t see anything productive in once again judging myself so harshly. That train has left the station.
Another option is to look at the bright side: I’m more aware of my thoughts and habits around complaining than I was 5 days ago. And any gain in self-awareness is a plus. 
 Why?
Because we can’t do anything about the things we aren’t aware of.
Now that I’m more aware, I have choices to make. Like, what am I going to do about this complaining? If anything?
I’ve decided to continue the non-complaining challenge over the next 26 days (see the article that sparked this conversation for me HERE--> This Is What Happened When I Stopped Complaining for 30 days). Whenever I find myself complaining I’m going to reframe the situation and tell a new story to myself that is less judgmental and more compassionate and kind.
Keep in mind that we shouldn’t expect perfection from ourselves. Complaining probably comes as natural to most of us as breathing, and we are not “wrong” or “bad” for it.
This entire exercise is about figuring out how to feel better more often. That’s it. It is NOT about finding one more thing to condemn myself over.
We are not only ALLOWED to be the wonderful imperfect human beings that we are but we have a moral OBLIGATION to be ourselves! There’s no one on this planet quite like you and I believe that’s on purpose. You are meant to be right here, right now, exactly as you are.
And what I learned the last few days is how my complaints and judgments affect ME: they drag my mood down. They lower my vibration. So, was the guy blocking the carts at the grocery store being inconsiderate? Sure. But I honestly think he wasn’t doing it on purpose so why be mad at him? Why disturb my peace?
Because seriously, a simple “Excuse me” solved the problem.
I guess in the end we have to ask ourselves, “Is making and holding this judgment/criticism/complaint/sense-of-injustice harming me or helping me?” Why is that important? Because your mission on earth is to be the most authentic and best YOU you can be. And harming yourself doesn’t help you achieve that, now does it?
Tapping helped me reduce my reactions and actually uncover the underlying reasons I was complaining in the first place. I have a lot more work to do on this and I suspect it will be a lifelong process. Check out The Tapping Solution and Nick Ortner for more about that.
Oh, and Wild Orange, Frankincense, and Peppermint essential oils are fantastic for helping to shift your thought patterns and energy. I mixed Wild Orange and Peppermint in my diffuser during the day, and Frankincense and Wild Orange at night. You could also mix up a couple roller bottles with those two combinations and take them with you. 
If you are trying to empty your cup and refill it with more positive vibes, let me know how you're doing in the comments! Let's support each other on this journey. <3
If you want and need even more support, join my tribe on Facebook The Essentials for Living a High Vibe Life, follow my author page Author Melissa Lummis, and make sure to click that Subscribe button up above this post to get notified every time I post. 
PS If you’re into Tarot, I’m doing a Facebook live Tarot reading for a few lucky attendees over on my author page today at 1:30 pm EDT. Click HERE-->You Have Spoken! to get the low down and make sure you watch this video HERE-->More About the Live Tarot Readings to get insider tips on how to be picked for a reading.
Enjoy your weekend and be extra kind to yourself, too.
Much love and light!

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Wednesday, May 9, 2018

What's in Your Cup?

I want to give credit, I just don't know who wrote this. 
I've come across this post before, and I've shared it more than once, but today it spoke to me on a new
level.

To give you some context, this week I challenged myself and my High Vibe tribe to stop complaining for 4 days. I'd read this Headspace blog post-->This is What Happened When I Stopped Complaining for 30 Days and thought, I know myself well enough to acknowledge 30 days is overwhelming, but 4 days? I can do that.

But it hasn't been easy. At every turn, there's an opportunity to complain...about another driver, about the news, about the person standing in the cart corral blocking everyone from getting to the grocery carts while he stares off into space and chats on his phone (seriously--oops! Is that complaining???).

You get the picture.

So I see this post on a friend's timeline this morning and think, wow. It's not just when things get rough. What's inside spills out even over minor irritations.

Or maybe those things bother me more than they should? And why is that?

Because of what's inside me.

This has me thinking...and wanting to change what's inside.

I want to dump out this cup that is full of what's wrong with the world...

...and fill it with what's good.

Now, the question is, how do I accomplish that?

What do you think?

Let me know in the comments.

Peace out!

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