Wednesday, November 21, 2018

How to Turn Your Wishes into Your Reality - Part 7: Release Attachment

This is the 7th post in a series about turning your wishes into reality. You can catch up here:

Part 2 - Be Positive
Part 3 - Prioritize & Visualize
Part 4 - Be Ethical
Part 5 - Believe
Part 6 - Meditate


Last Post: Meditate

In the last post, I talked about meditating and why it matters if you want to make your wishes come true. It's very simple: you need to practice getting your mind right for wish manifesting. Okay, so now on to this mysterious releasing attachment thing.


Release Attachment

What the hell does that mean, Melissa? Well, it means you need to release your attachment to your wish coming true. 

Say what????
Yep.
Okay, so I know this one is a doozy, I confess. Basically, you need to let go of the outcome once you've made your wish known and clear. You need to not be afraid of failing or at least be willing to fail. I know, I know. It hurts the brain.

But here's how this works: desperation stinks. Even to the Universe. If you are desperate for your wish to come true, yeah, no. It makes manifesting it 10 times harder because the vibe of desperation is only going to bring you one thing: more desperation. 


How to Get Rid of the Stink

The only way to make sure you aren't desperately chasing your dreams is to let go of the outcome. It's hard to get your head around but let me try to make this simple: Letting go of the outcome means trusting that things will work out in your best interest.

Let me say that in a different way: Go back to step 5: Believe. Believe in yourself, believe in your dreams, believe in the Universe/God/Love/Higher Consciousness/Yourself, believe you are worthy of your wishes, believe you are capable of manifesting whatever you want. 

Then
Let.
It.
Go.


Addicted to Wanting

And here's another mind-bender: we become addicted to the emotional state of longing for what we don't have. Holy shite, right? This literally means your body's cells form receptors for the neuropeptides of longing and desperation. So when those cells create sister or daughter cells, those cells have more of those receptors.
Stay with me...
In essence, your cells are then screaming for desperation and longing experiences to fill those receptors. 


Breaking Free

If you want to break free of this cycle, you have to rehab your mind & body AND stick to it long enough for new cells to be produced with less of those receptors, and then long enough for those cells to produce more cells with the right kinds of receptors for the belief and motivation neuropeptides that will propel you into the life you've been wishing for.

THIS.
TAKES.
TIME.

Remember Step 6: Meditation? It will seriously help you get through this rehab period. You have to endure the withdrawal to get to the other side of this addiction. 

Some other practices that will help:

Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) aka Tapping Meditation
Aromatherapy
Affirmations
Support group or life coach
Forgiveness
Prayer
Ritual
Self Study
Self Acceptance
Compassion
Self Love

If you want some help with this step, reach out and let's see what we can come up with together.


What's Next?

This step is a big one, so don't rush it. If you are feeling lost, you're not alone. Most people need help with this one, so that's why I'm going to spend the next post talking about one of the rehab techniques I recommend: Affirmations. 

Make sure you're subscribed as the posts on wish manifesting are speeding up. You don't want to miss any of them.


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Want to deep dive into taking charge of your emotions and changing your life? Need some spiritual guidance and practical life coaching about how to get out of the cynical mindset and transform your life into one you love, instead of settling for the one you have? Are you ready to believe in the potential for wishes coming true but don't know where to start? CLICK HERE TO REQUEST A DISCOVERY CONSULT 

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Monday, November 19, 2018

Why Finding Your Soul's Purpose Never Works Out the Way You Planned

What is all this fuss about finding your soul's purpose, anyway? I mean, what the heck, people. Seems like just another stressful thing you have to do to be happy and it never works out the way you planned, right?

Wrong.

I mean...I know it never quite works out the way you want. It's frustrating, right? Here you embarked on this "spiritual" journey to find your soul's purpose, get fulfilled, and all that crap, but at the end of the day all you found was disappointment, dissatisfaction, and a real fear that you may not be talented at anything.

What's "wrong" isn't our disappointing experience; that's a fact. What's wrong is the way we think we have to go about finding our soul's purpose AND what we think our soul's purpose is...because THAT is why we become disillusioned.

The Right Way

Discovering your soul's purpose does NOT require a specific type of work or long, lonely nights of soul-searching. There's no magic formula. A moment of cosmic oneness acquired through extreme asceticism is not necessary.

As a matter of fact, if that's how you're trying to find out what you're here on Earth to accomplish, it's not going to work out the way you hoped. Well, you might find your soul's purpose, but it's going to be one rough road.

Contrary to all the well-meaning advice I've received about the trials and tribulations needed to find my soul's purpose, I discovered the right way is really fairly simple.

Ready for the truth?

All that's required is to let go of the need to find a singular soul's purpose and get really curious about living a life that lights you up inside.

That's it.

Seriously.

Let It Go

Okay, so what does that mean, let go of the need? It means letting go of the end goal and engaging in the process. Often, when we are trying too hard to get where we're going, we actually miss the whole point. See, your soul's purpose is not a destination, an end goal, or an object to be obtained.

Your soul's purpose is a way of living that produces satisfaction, success, peace, or even a pleasant surprise. It's a journey, not a destination.

But we get confused, right? We think it's this prize we have to attain, the top of the mountain, the end of the trail, and as we pursue it harder and faster, we get desperate. The desperate vibe attracts more desperate situations. It literally repels the thing we're looking for, the whole point of discovering your soul's purpose: to feel fulfilled. 

So, instead of pursuing your soul's purpose like you're on a desperate hunt, change your vibe to one of curiosity.

Become the gatherer.

The Hunter vs. the Gatherer

Why the gatherer and NOT the hunter?

The hunter is singularly focused on the prey but the gatherer is taking everything in.
 The hunter has a specific target. The gatherer wants to discover what's available.
Both have the same purpose in mind: to feed themselves. BUT they achieve the goal with very different strategies.

When it comes to finding your soul's purpose, a more curious attitude is required. It requires keeping your eyes and ears open and not taking anything for granted. It can be a lot of fun and quite interesting.

Nothing against the hunter strategy. It's incredibly useful and has its place for specific goals that require single-minded focus.

But finding your soul's purpose is not one of those goals. It may seem counterintuitive because aren't we supposed to be finding our specific purpose?

No.

Remember: your soul's purpose isn't about finding the exact one thing you're here to do; it's about discovering what your soul responds to.

Your soul's purpose is the journey to discover what makes you excited to wake up in the morning.


Get Curious

Get ready for one more truth bomb that will really blow your mind:

your soul's purpose may involve doing a thousand little things, a few medium-sized things, and one great big thing.

Check this out: today, my soul's purpose so far has been to write this blog post. Later on it might be to smile at the clerk when I check out at the grocery store and keep my eyes peeled for the perfect Christmas present for a friend. Then tonight, it will be to make a scrumptious, nourishing meal for my hubs and kiddos.

Everything we do has the potential to fulfill our soul's purpose here on Earth.

And that is why you can't stalk it like an elk. If you are singularly focused, you'll miss a hundred opportunities to light your soul on fire.

And it is imperative that we be ready to recognize when the flames get stoked.


The spark or bonfire or inferno when you make a decision is the sign that you've tapped into your soul's purpose and you're moving in the right direction.

To tap into that requires getting curious, exploring, wandering through the aisles of the craft store, the music store, or between the rows of trees at your local orchard. It requires trying that new Zumba class, engaging with the barista at your local coffee shop, and vegging out on the couch watching that nature show.

The Happiness Fail

And when you are willing to get curious, to explore every moment of your life as an opportunity to fulfill your life's purpose, you'll also create your own version of happy. Which, let's face it, is what we all want: to be happy.

But the reason so many of us fail at the happy thing is two-fold:
1. We think we're supposed to be happy all the time and any other feeling is a failure, and
2. We don't actually know what our version of happy feels like, so we miss it.

Your Version of Happy

You are not meant to be happy all the time. That's not possible. Emotions-and happiness is an emotion-come and go, ebb and flow, wax and wane. Emotions are barometers and symptoms of our beliefs and thoughts.  So feeling happy is just a symptom of a belief system or thought pattern about whatever is going on in your life at the moment. It's not a sign you're fulfilling your life's purpose, necessarily.

And your version of happy, your tell-tale sign you're fulfilling your soul's purpose may be different from what you think it should be. We all have forms of "happiness" that signal we are moving in the right direction, aka fulfilling our life's purpose. The four fundamental ones are:

1. Satisfaction
2. Success
3. Surprise
4. Peace

These four signposts that we're engaging in our soul's purpose come from the Human Design system developed by Ra Uru Hu. To learn more about the Human Design System click on this link.

But while Ra Uru Hu defined these in his system, he's not the first to discuss the misleading goal of happiness versus deeper fulfillment in life and how fulfillment is the key to living your life's purpose and vice versa.

Do a Google and you'll see what I mean.

Find Your Happy

So how do you figure out which version of happy is yours? You have to experiment. Get curious. Look for the sense of satisfaction, success, surprise, and peace throughout your day AS you look for opportunities to fulfill your soul's purpose.

Your soul's purpose IS your happiness.

Brilliant, no?

As you explore every moment's potential to fulfill your soul's purpose you'll know you've struck gold when you experience peace, satisfaction, surprise, or success.

So get out there and experience your soul's purpose AND your version of happy. I promise your life will never be the same if you're willing to be curious and explore the amazing possibilities.


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Want to deep dive into taking charge of your emotions and changing your life? Need some spiritual guidance and practical life coaching about how to get out of the cynical mindset and transform your life into one you love, instead of settling for the one you have? Are you ready to believe in the potential for wishes coming true but don't know where to start? CLICK HERE TO REQUEST A DISCOVERY CONSULT 


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Sunday, November 18, 2018

How to Turn Your Wishes into Your Reality - Part 6: Meditate

This is the 6th post in a series about turning your wishes into reality. You can catch up here:

Last Post

My last post on wishing was all about the power of your belief systems. Basically, if you believe you can, you will. If you believe you can't, you won't. It really is that simple. Now, don't get confused into thinking belief is all you need. Nope. There's a few other things you need to do to make your wishes into reality...like meditating.

Get Your Mind Right

I can hear your eyes rolling. Okay, so maybe you've heard this too many times already, but meditation is the standard for creating the kind of mindset required to be a kick ass wish manifestor. I seriously don't know of a more profound practice for changing your life...and that's really what we're after, aren't we? A new life?

So make the time for meditation. 
Every. 
Single. 
Day.
Just 3 minutes a day can change your life. Don't have time for 3 minutes? Then take 6. Seriously. Do it. 

The Why

Why is meditation so important to making wishes come true? I'll give you the short list:
It grounds you.
Teaches patience.
Hones focus.
Activates your intuition.
Promotes a higher state of consciousness.
Creates the habit of self-discipline.
And that's just the short list. But all of those things are absolutely necessary for doing the work of turning your wish to write the great American novel or level up in your career or start your own business into your reality. 

The How

Never meditated before? Let me make this super easy: there is no right or wrong way to meditate. You don't need anything special or even a special way to do it. All you need is the time and willingness. It helps to have a quiet space where you won't be interrupted, but even that is not necessary, just helpful.

Here's how to meditate:
1. Sit in a comfortable position.
2. Set a timer.
3. Focus on your breath.
4. Inhale and exhale.
5. Every time your mind wanders, bring your awareness back to your breath without judgment.
5. Repeat until your timer goes off.

That is seriously all you need to get started. Oh sure, there are different techniques and everyone has an opinion about the details BUT the essence is sit and pay attention to your breathing. To learn more about how to meditate, check out the app Headspace or contact me and I'll teach you some finer details. 

What's Next?

Make sure your subscribe to my blog because I'm publishing Sundays and Wednesdays for the month of November. I have so much to show you about making wishes come true and don't want you to have to wait for a weekly post. And we're getting into the really juicy stuff now...like releasing attachment to the outcome. 

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And if you're ready to learn more about what it takes to transform the way you feel and make a life you love, then you NEED to join my private Facebook group The Karma Couch Connection where we support each other in raising our vibrations. CLICK HERE TO REQUEST TO JOIN MY PRIVATE FACEBOOK GROUP 

Want to deep dive into taking charge of your emotions and changing your life? Need some spiritual guidance and practical life coaching about how to get out of the cynical mindset and transform your life into one you love, instead of settling for the one you have? Are you ready to believe in the potential for wishes coming true but don't know where to start? CLICK HERE TO REQUEST A DISCOVERY CONSULT 

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Wednesday, November 14, 2018

How to Turn Your Wishes into Your Reality - Part 5: Believe

This is the 5th post in a series about turning your wishes into reality. You can catch up here:

Last Post

In the last post I talked about the ethics of wishing. Bottom line? Keep your wishes off of other people and focus on you and what you can do, not what others can do for you. Next, let's look at the power of belief.

You Got To Believe it to See It

This is the Tinker Bell Affect: you have to believe in them or they die. Fairies and wishes live off the same nectar: optimism and a little bit of magic. If you're struggling to believe in your dreams, if you can't seem to muster the feelings required, then it's time to do some self-reflection.
Ask yourself why you are having such a hard time believing in the possibility of making your wish come true. Most of us have doubts; that's just par for the human course. But if we want to take our lives to the next level, we need to do some soul-searching. There's no way around taking a look into the deep dark depths of our true beliefs.

Deep Diving in the Dark

This is scary. I get it. Believe me. I've had to do this several times over the course of my life. Why? Because I'd get to a point where I couldn't seem to make headway in my life. I felt stuck, and a time or two even severely depressed. I felt like I was going nowhere with no idea how to get back on track.
Enter the deep dive into the dark recesses of the subconscious. 
This can be a scary thing to do, but I promise it's worth it. If you're having trouble believing you can get a better job or make a better life, then you may be dealing with some self-worth issues. Ewwwwww. I know. Not a favorite subject BUT if you don't value yourself you are not going to believe you're worthy or capable of making your wishes come true.

Change Your Thoughts, Change Your Life

If you shine the light on your unconscious beliefs around self-worth, you'll often find that the only thing holding you back from getting what you want is you. 
Yep.
You.
Not your boss.
Not your partner.
Not your lousy luck.
You.
And that is seriously the greatest news ever! Why? Because YOU are the only thing YOU can change. If it really was something outside yourself, well then you'd be fucked. But I promise. Most of the time and for most of us, it's all about our beliefs about ourselves and our situation, not the situation itself.
You can change your beliefs and thoughts. Here's a really simple way:
1. Identify the limited belief.
2. Write it down on a 3x5 card.
3. Flip the script: write a new belief on the other side that empowers you instead of holds you back.
4. Carry the note card with you everywhere.
5. Whenever you catch yourself thinking the limiting belief, get your note card out.
6. Say "I release this." 
7. Flip the card and say out loud your new, empowering belief.

Get Help

Don't know where to begin with changing your beliefs? Get some help. Find a coach (like me!) or a therapist if you think you might be dealing with clinical depression. There are also a ton of great books on the subject. The two that helped me the most are:


What's Next?

The next step will help you on all sorts of levels withe turning wishes into reality...Meditate.

As always, any links to books or other products may be affiliate links, which means I get a few pennies if you click and decide to purchase.


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Want to deep dive into taking charge of your emotions and changing your life? Need some spiritual guidance and practical life coaching about how to get out of the cynical mindset and transform your life into one you love, instead of settling for the one you have? Are you ready to believe in the potential for wishes coming true but don't know where to start? CLICK HERE TO REQUEST A DISCOVERY CONSULT 

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Sunday, November 11, 2018

How to Turn Your Wishes into Your Reality - Part 4: Be Ethical

This is the 4th post in a series about turning your wishes into reality. You can catch up here:

Last Week

Last week I wrote about the need to prioritize and to visualize when it comes to turning wishes into reality. Prioritizing is about understanding how wishes relate to each other, you need the money before you can buy the dream house, and how much time you have to focus on your wishes. You can get them all, but not necessarily all at once. 

Visualizing your wish coming true is science, baby. Athletes do it. CEOs do it. Movers and shakers do it. They also feel it. Ever watch the movie or read the book The Secret? The one thing I wish they'd made more clear was the need to create the feels. The Universe is a yes universe, but it doesn't respond to the words or the thoughts. It's more like magnetism: the Universe brings more of what you are you feeling. Feel as if you're life is abundant and it will be. 

Okay, so what's next? 

Ethics, baby.

Be Ethical

This part is so important that I can't stress it enough. If you wish for someone else to lose so you can win or for something bad to happen to someone else, you are going to experience a whole lot of negativity in direct proportion to the amount of bad you're wishing on someone else. Or best case scenario you will feed your jealousy, anger, or attitude of lack, which will impede your ability to make anything positive happen in your life.

It's like this: Negative begets negative. End of story. If you doubt this, post some nasty shit online and watch it attract more shit posting. Or worse. This part of the Law of Attraction is greatly misunderstood. We tend to focus on how to make our wishes come true, but its equally important to talk about how we manifest the things we claim we don't want. 

Crapping On Yourself

You can argue all you want, but complaining about how horrible and immoral the political candidate you don't like is only begets more horrible and negative experiences for everyone, including yourself. It does not have a positive affect. It does not sway anyone to vote in a way you like and it sure as hell doesn't change the person you're shit posting about. 

Neither does ranting about the asshole waiter or the electric company or the piss poor customer service of your internet service provider change anything. Complaining to management probably doesn't change anything either, as said manager has probably heard it all and can't do anything about corporate policy anyway. Besides, let me ask you: have you ever been motivated to help someone after they've spend the last 20 minutes ripping you a new one? 

Didn't think so.

The same rules apply when making wishes, aka setting intentions. If you come at it with a negative attitude or from an angry place of resentment, you will not attract the good stuff. Sorry/not sorry. That's just the way it is.

Keep Your Wishes Off Other People

We also don't wish for things for other people, at least not without their permission. It doesn't matter how good your intentions are for your friend Sally. If she doesn't know and you don't know if she really wants that new job, it's not ethical for you to be wishing for her.

It's also not cool to wish for someone to do or feel or say something. Oh, I don't know like...fall in love with you? Instead, focus on yourself and what you can do to attract the love you're looking for. Hint: it's all about loving yourself first. 

It's also not good to wish for a boss to stop yelling or your Mom to get off your back. While it's understandable to want those things, it's still not your place to wish people different. That's messing with free will. Nothing good comes from trying to force your will, no matter how well-intentioned you are, onto others. 

Because in the long run, your opinion about how others should act or be or live is like, just your opinion, man. 

Free will is important.

Respect it.

What's Next?

The next few posts will be coming fast and furious, so make sure you're subscribed so you don't miss a single one.  Next up...Believe.
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Want to deep dive into taking charge of your emotions and changing your life? Need some spiritual guidance and practical life coaching about how to get out of the cynical mindset and transform your life into one you love, instead of settling for the one you have? Are you ready to believe in the potential for wishes coming true but don't know where to start? CLICK HERE TO REQUEST A DISCOVERY CONSULT 

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Tuesday, October 30, 2018

How to Turn Your Wishes into Your Reality - Part 3 - Prioritize & Visualize

This is the third post in a series about making your wishes into reality. You can catch up here:

Last Week

Last week I wrote about Do's NOT Don'ts and how the subconscious works in images and feelings, so negatives don't tend to compute.  Your wish must be stated in the affirmative. Wish for what you WANT not what you don't want. Okay, so now you're ready for the next steps: Prioritize and Visualize.

Prioritize

Prioritizing is a simple act of making one wish more important than another. It's simple, yes, but not always easy. Sometimes it's hard to pick between making 6 figures at basket weaving, your current passion OR finding that 5 bedroom vintage beach house on the north side of the island you've been dreaming about for years.

And you really don't have to pick between having one or the other; what you need to do is decide which is more important right now. This doesn't have to be too hard. Think about it logically: when the Universe presents you with the opportunity to buy exactly the beach house you've been doodling in the margins of your notebook, you're going to want the mulah to buy it, right?

So make the 6 figure income priority number1 and the house number 2.

Go grab your list. Now look at it with both the eyes of passion and the laser gaze of logic. What makes sense to put first? What will set you up nicely for the next wish?

When you have, say, the desire to write and publish your first novel up against that basket weaving career, I would pick the one that will give you the money and therefore more time down the road to work on the other. The book doesn't have to wait that long, either. You can be weaving baskets by day and book writing by night.

HOWEVER, I caution you to get one started and established before adding the other. Here's where logic plays in: get the one rolling that will pay the bills first. I always say when it comes to writing a novel don't make it pay the bills or you'll kill the joy of it. Just my opinion for what it's worth.

Okay, so now you have a numbered list, right? Rewrite it in order and let's start visualizing Numero Uno.

Visualize

Now we're going to create a clear and detailed picture of what it means to have that wish come true. First you want to write out all the details of what your wish will look, feel, taste, smell, and sound like. Where are you? Who are you with? What are you eating, drinking? Is there music? Wind? The sound of the ocean waves?

What are you wearing? Where are you going? Is the sky blue? Or are the stars up above?

Get really, really clear what your wish will feel like, as well. What emotions are you feeling? What sensations are you experiencing?

Got it? Good.

Now you're going to set a few minutes aside every single day to visualize this wish of yours as if it's already come true. Start your morning off with a hot beverage and a few quiet moments visualizing your dream come true.

Need some help? Not good at this visualization thing? Then you'll want to join my private Facebook group where you can download a guided visualization meditation I recorded just for my insiders. Click HERE~>The Karma Couch Connection to join.

Not sure about this visualization technique? Did you know athletes use it all the time? They see the basketball already in the hoop or see themselves crossing the finish line first. Jack Canfield also talks about why it's so effective in realizing your goals. Click HERE~>Visualization Techniques to read his article on the subject.

And come right back here next week for Step 4: Wishing Big & Baby Steps

Peace out

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Want to deep dive into taking charge of your emotions and changing your life? Need some spiritual guidance and practical life coaching about how to get out of the cynical mindset and transform your life into one you love, instead of settling for the one you have? Are you ready to believe in the potential for wishes coming true but don't know where to start? CLICK HERE TO REQUEST A DISCOVERY CONSULT 

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Sunday, October 21, 2018

How to Turn Your Wishes Into Your Reality - Part 2 - Be Positive

This is the second post in a series about making your wishes into reality. You can catch up here:

Part 1 - Be Brave


Last Week

Last week I talked about reclaiming your faith  and having the courage to make wishes once again. As we grow up, we lose our child-like belief because our wishes rarely manifest. But I am here to tell you it's not your fault and the reason so many of your wishes didn't come true is because you were never taught the real magic. The truth is you can't just wish upon a star. That's only the first step.

You have to follow through and take radical action.

And I'm here to show you exactly how to do that! So let's get to it.

Let's review Step 1. Be Brave

The first ingredient in wish manifesting is the courage to make the wish in the first place and then write it down. Writing it down brings it from the mysterious energetic field of our consciousness and out into the physical world. It goes from a thought made of energy to an idea formed out of ink and paper. This is why so many self-help gurus tell you to write your goals down. Its the first step in making them real.

Now, the next step...

Step 2. Be positive

You have to make sure you're wishing for things you WANT, not what you don't want. I call this the Dos NOT the Don'ts Principle. It's basic Law of Attraction stuff: where attention goes energy flows.

Your wish must be stated in the affirmative. 

Here's another way to look at it: your subconscious works in symbols and images versus the conscious mind which is dominated by language and the written word. Check out the Psychology Today article I linked to and you'll see that this is not some abstract spiritual concept; it is stone cold science. And it has broad implications about the domination of culture and education by logic and rational thinking.

What Does This All Mean?

So what this means is you need to make your wishes in the affirmative, not the subtractive. There's no big red X over the image of what you don't want. If you say "I don't want to be depressed: you conjure up an image AND the feeling of being depressed. The message to your subconscious? Bring on the depression! Gloom, sad feelings, dark days.

What you want to wish instead is "I wish to feel happy and positive." Now your subconscious is literally getting the picture, an image of sunshine and smiles.


The Subconscious Uses Symbols and Imagery

The subconscious only knows you are conjuring a feeling and imagery, not that you DON'T want that experience. And yes, this is why self-help and spiritual gurus drive home the concept of positive thought. What you think creates your reality. There is no escaping this truth. If you are a cynic like I used to be, then I challenge you to try changing your negative thoughts into positive ones. But the magic is in the intention, my friends. You can't half-ass this.

"I am willing to change" 

If you really want to change your negative tendencies to positive ones and you're having a hard time, Louise Hay recommends you start with the willingness to change. Repeat to yourself all day long, hundreds of times "I am willing to change."

Want to super charge it? Touch your throat, where the 5th Chakra resides, the Throat Chakra Vishuddha. When this energetic point in the body is open negativity is transformed into wisdom and learning. When it is closed that negativity turns inward, rotting us from the inside out.

Want to make your wishes come true? You've got to be positive. You've got to raise your vibration to attract more positive experiences.

Write It Down

Did you write down your wish yet? Do it now! I recommend keeping a wish journal. My new favorite journaling technique is bullet journaling. Follow the link to find out how to create your own bullet journal. Make a collection of Wishes. Write down your wishes, then create a Collection spread for each wish. Edit all your wished so they vibrate higher, in a positive way.

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